There is a lot of beneficial self-help information out there for caregivers. Perhaps more every day as our elder population increases and more of us find ourselves in the complex role of caregiving. Many articles will tell you to learn from the experience and find some personal growth.
The other day I was feeling blue and when someone told me, “You must find the joy in each moment, Merret, it is the only way!” Well, I wanted to lob their noggin off! What I really needed was for someone to validate me in that moment of frustration and sadness.
Here is what came of that experience. It’s not just another pep talk.
- Hit some balls – give that angst some air time…tennis balls, baseballs, golf balls, and soccer balls are just waiting for your roar!
- Be a “No Guy” – check your customary “Yes” at the door for the day.
- Throw out the scented candle that your kind friend just gave you “because you need to take a moment for yourself” – honestly, just this act might make your whole day!
- Stay in bed – once a month wave the white flag and pull the sheets up over your head.
- Check out your local comedy club – laugh it out.
- Seek free assistance from professionals who have the straight answers to help you and your loved ones with your options for support.
Although the list above is mostly irreverent, I am not recommending finding your local pub or putting a hole in the wall. I believe we need to find constructive ways to deal with our stress. We all have it and most of us are running around trying to do it all perfectly while carrying the weight of these obligations and responsibilities. After working in this field for 20+ years the one thing I can strongly recommend is that we ask for help. We don’t need to do it all perfectly or alone.