She would probably really enjoy going to an Alzheimer’s Cafe if you’re lucky enough to be near one.

I had been obsessing over all of the losses that come with old age– physical stamina, mental sharpness, robust health, and, of course, the people that we lose over time. It seemed like all the major life experiences, i.e. childhood, education, marriage, having children, entering the workforce, buying a home, etc.– it had all been done already, and what was left to experience, except the “early bird special” at House of Pancakes”?? I’m beginning to realize, however, that there truly still are many things I have yet to see/do/experience; furthermore, I now have more time in which to do them! There are countless books I have yet to read, movies & plays I have yet to watch, places I so want to visit! I might still some day have a grandchild! There are also new friends that I have yet to meet, new restaurants to try, new hobbies to enjoy! Finally, and perhaps most important, is that the family & friends that I now love to pieces continue to make life worthwhile, as my love for them grows deeper and more joyous over time. Thanks so much for the nudge in the right direction, Dana!

This knowledge of “being present in your own life” is so important and is a difficult place to reach for people, so you should be proud of yourself for attaining this awareness.

A few ways to have a paradigm shift toward more positive thinking are to set goals for yourself and give yourself fun things to look forward to in life. Schedule that cooking class, massage, shopping date with friends — or anything that can enhance the daily doldrums that are so easy to slip in to in today’s existence of technology and fast-paced lifestyles. Getting the endorphins going through exercise or taking that much-needed vacation, as well as, letting your imagination be immersed in a good book, are also excellent ways to enjoy the many things life has to offer.

And you’re right — Appreciating the love and beauty are so important. If you have a doctor, talk to him/her about your frustrations. All of these thoughts are normal and should be confronted. Just remember that it is all this awareness that makes us human — which is also why we’re lucky to be able to experience all the wonderful things life has to offer!

We are really sorry you are going through this difficult situation; especially at your age. We recommend you talk to a school counselor, teacher or trusted adult.