My neighbor, Leslie, is oShould Care Giving Be Tax Deductible?ne of those amazing women of the “sandwich” generation. She parents two young girls and her mother lives with her as well. According to the Pew Research Center, just over 1 of every 8 Americans aged 40 to 60 is both raising a child and caring for a parent. I would love to bring them all a bundle of flowers in gratitude!

Leslie and I found some time to chat the other day and the challenges of her particular situation came up. She spoke about the significant emotional cost associated with a being full-time caregiver and also mentioned the financial challenges she faces. Leslie then made a point that I felt was immensely valid! She wanted to know why she was able to check a box on her IRS tax form to identify her children as dependents but could not do the same for her mother. A few states do have programs to help financially support those people who care for their loved ones, after all, this service is helping to offset the burden of federal and state funded programs, i.e. Medicaid. Yet, these supportive programs for caregivers are still rare.

65 Million Unpaid Family Caregivers
I believe this conversation needs much more attention, so let’s put it on the table. The data shows the number of unpaid family caregivers is over 65 million and rising! And as AARP so eloquently states, “Family support is a key driver in remaining in one’s home and in the community, but it comes at substantial costs to the caregivers themselves, to their families, and to society. If family caregivers were no longer available, the economic cost to the U.S. health care and long-term services and supports (LTSS) systems would increase astronomically.”

How do we value the unpaid family caregivers in our communities?
As a caregiver, wouldn’t you like to be compensated for at a least part of the financial cost of this obligation?

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  2. Ann Lawson

    How can I Find out informatin about recieving a Caregiver’s Check ?? Who do I need to talk to or Call for this Information ?? I have been taking care of My Mom since July of 2009 to Present. She Has & is Suffering from a Bad Case of Psoriasis,Osteoarthritis,Rheumatiod arthritis,Osteoporosis,Diabetes & Tremors.In 2009 She was suffering for High Blood Pressure,Low Cholesterol Plus the things that are listed Above. She has to use a wheelchair to go in stores, to go to Doctors Appointments and whatever else She will need to do. Her legs get weak & She has falling about 3 or more times.I am a Full-Time Caregiver & I am Blessed to Know that My Mom is getting taken Care of. Please send the information to My E-mail Address or Call Me at 1-229-787-0479 & My E-mail Address is [email protected]

    Ann Lawson

  3. monalyn reyes

    contact your nearest department of social services for caregivers/provider/ a background check /fingerprinting are required. so best wishes,:) happy holidays

  4. Jean Hanse

    I have a somewhat different situation. Due to bad investments we don’t have the retirment money we expected. I am working 30 hours per week and taking care of my husband.

    I could use help with keeping up the house, yard and laundry. Our plan was to sell our house and move into something smaller. Our home is now worth a lot less that what we paid. We have no equity something that has never occurred in our lifetime. We had planned to use that equity to purchase a smaller place or condo. We have a pretty good income with our social security and my paycheck but it is eaten up with all types of insurance. Our co-pay for Medicare Part D just reached $300 per month.

    what happens when I can no longer work?

  5. Barbara Carter Jones

    As a caregiver for my mother,I can’t begin to tell you of the experiences that I have endured in d care 24/7 and I was virtually the only one to care for her. Recently,I discovered that the state od MD. has an innovative program for seniors who are disabled and they cetify and register others to come in to help you care for your loved ones.You must contract with them as you would any other hireling but the state both trains and certifies the workers and they have been a God’s sent gift for their loveing care,compassion, and time spent in taking care of your loved one’s needs while giving you some precious time to yourself to take care if those many things that you must neglect in order to care for your loved one.In addition,there is a great savings of money spent on the care which can be extraordinarily expensive.You also have the opportunity to keep your loved one at home where you can monitor the care they are receiving.There are many beneficial reaons for using this option but the salvation of your sanity andhealth would be payment enough for the money that you would have to spend.I hope this suggestion is of some use to you.Please feel free to email me back if you feel that I can be of any assistance.I have been there so I know how you are suffering and drowing in guilt and frustration.This may not solve all problems but it will help to take the edge off.May God’s richest blessings shine on you and yours.My prayers are with you.

  6. louise ricks

    how can i receive a care giver’s check for taking care of my father in my home?

  7. Mary Sheridan

    I’m not a caregiver at this time, but I have several friends who need care and several who are caregivers, so I wonder how the survey came up with $11.16 per hour as a rate. I don’t think it’s possible to find caregivers who work for anything close to that. Housekeepers and lawn maintenance people make more than that, and caregiving is hard, emotionally draining and physically taxing work. Family caregivers should be able to be compensated for their service, at the very least by means of a tax deduction.

    One resource in some situations is hospice volunteers. A volunteer can give the caregiver at least time to get away for a few hours each week, which helps them maintain friendships and do needed things away from home. If you don’t need one, go be one. It’s a rewarding and much appreciated service.

    • Ann Napoletan

      Great point about hospice, Mary. Having just lost my mom in December, I’m not quite there yet, but would love to be a hospice volunteer in the future. They do amazing work; hospice was truly a godsend for us. As far as the pay rate for caregivers, sadly I know some top notch care providers that are earning no more than $10/hour. It’s absolute insanity; such a critical job and so few people can do it with the sincere love and compassion required… yet they earn next to nothing… That has got to change. ~Ann

  8. terry lowes

    I have become care giver to my older spouse who can still care for his person needs but is becoming very unaware of many thing around him. He is becoming nasty, mean and somtimes very verbally abusive torward me such as swearing at me. beligerant, angry and showing a lack of disrect toward me. This behavior was not typically common place in our marriage. He is shouting and arguing with me and shouting at me regarding everything

    • Ann Napoletan

      Terry… unfortunately, this is what dementia does. It’s important to try and remember that it is not him talking, but rather the disease manifesting itself. Consider contacting your local chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association for some support, or call the toll free 24/7 help line at 1.800.272.3900. Living with dementia changes everything, it’s critical that caregivers remember to take care of themselves in the midst of all the chaos…

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